Do you even have goals? What are goals and how to achieve goals?
What is a goal?
A goal is an outcome that you want to have happen in your life. You normally have a strong desire to make that outcome a reality. It is something like reaching your ideal physique or accomplishing a financial target. It is something that adds more meaning to your life.
You must have the urge to fight to accomplish your goals, and by fight, I mean to really show up when it is getting tough.
Everybody has desires. Of course, everybody wants to live a better life, but a goal is something that you take a step further. It must be written down and referred to regularly. This reminds the mind of an objective it has to think about achieving.
And another obvious part of goals is that you need to take action. Preferably daily action, but some kind of action flowing into your goal on a consistent basis.
Why should you have goals?
By having goals you have already taken steps towards filling your life with whatever you want more of. You need to know what you want before you can have it.
You can never get anything if you don’t know what it is that you want. You cannot reach your ideal life if you do not know what your ideal life is. Become clear on what it is that you want in your life.
By not having any goals you just allow life to unfold before you. Whatever happens, happens. You are just along for the ride. By having goals you have an influence on what is going to happen in your life.
The new actions you take to reach your goal will lead you to new places.
The difference between a goal and a behaviour.
Okay, so now you know that a goal is a certain outcome that you want to have happen in your life. Now, what behaviour is, is an action you take that leads to a goal/outcome over time.
For example, if you want to reach your ideal body/just lose 10 kg (that is your goal), you are going to have to eat the right amount of calories and exercise properly (that is the actions you have to take to reach the goal).
So now you understand a goal can only be attained through action/behaviours, and the more consistent and regular the action, the more progress you will make towards accomplishing the goal.
That makes our life much simpler. All we have to do is focus on the actions we can take on a daily and consistent basis, and make sure we do them.
The manner in which we are going to achieve this is by creating habits for these behaviours. A habit is any action that you do without really thinking about it. Like driving your car, you do not need to consciously think about what each part of your body needs to do to drive. You just drive.
So a habit is an action you teach your body to do and the more you do it, the stronger the habit becomes. Strong habits are what we want. They will almost make the action we want ‘automatic’.
Another thing we need to do is to identify the critical behaviours that will lead to a lot of results. A lot of times we waste time with less important tasks rather than tackling the most important tasks.
The BJ Fogg behavioural model:
To help us achieve our task of creating habits in doing the behaviours that over time lead to the goal we will make use of a very interesting and practical method. This is the tiny habits method by BJ Fogg. If you can you can definitely buy his book to broaden your knowledge of habit-forming.
BJ Fogg behaviour model:
B = MAP
Behaviour happens when Motivation, Ability and Prompts come together at the same time.
You need the prompt (the cue) to start the behaviour.
You need to be motivated enough to do the behaviour.
You need to have the ability to do the behaviour.
When all those factors come together you will perform the behaviour. BJ Fogg did include a graph that makes it really easy to understand the behaviour model. You can search for it online, just Google ‘Fogg behaviour model’.
What BJ Fogg made clear is that just because you are struggling to make a behaviour a habit in your life or struggling to do an onetime behaviour, the reason for that struggle is not a character flaw. You have three factors to work with to get a behaviour to happen.
If you don’t have an appropriate prompt to start your workout, chances are good that you will forget about your workout. You see what is going on here, we need to look at behaviours in terms of prompts, motivation, and ability.
Tiny habits method:
BJ Fogg did an exceptional job with this tiny habits method. What you do is that you look at the behaviour or the action that you want to do and you make that action smaller. By making it smaller to do, you are making it easier to do also.
He used the example of starting to floss. What he did was directly after brushing teeth, he flossed only one tooth. Anything more he saw as extra credit. And he did this for a while before increasing the number of teeth he flossed.
After a while, he was in a habit of flossing all his teeth. On rough days he only flosses one tooth to keep the habit strong.
When you complete the behaviour, yes even the tiny behaviour, you must feel good that you completed it. Acknowledge yourself on the good job you are doing.
The reason it is a tiny behaviour is because it is easier to do, thereby you are growing its roots every time you perform that behaviour. By doing it every day you are creating the behaviour pattern as a habit in your life. The more you perform the behaviour the stronger the habit becomes.
And you want strong habits for those days that you lack a bit of motivation.
Enjoy BJ Fogg talking about his tiny habits method at a TEDx event.
Use subconscious mind programming
So now we have discussed goals, what they are, why they are important as well as behaviours, and the tiny habit method. What we are going to do now is link all of this with subconscious mind programming.
You can use techniques like visualizing, affirmations, feeling the desired feelings, building beliefs about your goals. Click here to read my previous post about the techniques to imprint your subconscious mind. Imprint the image upon your subconscious mind that you want to see in your physical reality.
Your subconscious mind is vibrating constantly with beliefs and habitual thinking patterns. The situations and circumstances that are in line with your vibrations will be attracted to you. If this sounds weird to you read a few of my other posts where I have spoken about this.
You need to have persistence. Every goal has its own appointed time. I can’t exactly remember where I heard that before, but it basically means you won’t always know when your goal will be accomplished in our physical reality, so you need to keep grinding until it does happen.
Persistence is doing the daily subconscious mind programming. To program that image of your goal into your subconscious mind. Persistence is the daily action that you take to accomplish your goal.
Persistence is another form of faith. And faith is one of the strongest vibrations of energy.
You need to have absolute faith that you will make your goal a reality in our physical world. It is already real in the inner world, but you need to stick by it with dedicated action for long enough to see it in the physical world.
If you want to find out more about faith, click here to read John Kehoe’s definition of faith.
I hope that you have enjoyed this post and found this information useful.